Is text okay for defining the relationship?
Yes. Text can open the conversation clearly. You can always move to a call after that.
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Ask where this is going clearly.
If you need relationship clarity, a short direct message is better than waiting in uncertainty.
Ready-to-send scripts
StandardI need to define this. Are we exclusive and intentional, or are we casual?
I am not continuing in ambiguity. Please tell me what you want from this.
I am dating with intention. If we want different things, we should be honest now.
If they push back
- This is a fair question. I need an honest answer, not avoidance.
- If now is not the right time for clarity, this may not be the right match.
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FAQs
What if they avoid the question?
Avoidance is still information. You can set a boundary and choose not to continue.
How soon is too soon to ask?
Ask when uncertainty starts harming your peace. Timing should fit your values, not social pressure.
How do I avoid sounding desperate?
Use calm language, short sentences, and clear outcomes. Confidence is clarity.
Can I use this message in a phone call instead of text?
Yes. Keep the same core point and shorten it to one or two clear sentences for spoken delivery.
When should I switch to a firmer tone?
Use firm tone after your boundary has been stated clearly and is still ignored. Repeat once, then follow through.
Need deeper support?
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