How many cancellations are too many?
There is no fixed number, but repeated last-minute changes usually indicate low reliability.
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Address flaky behavior directly.
Repeated cancellations drain trust. Address the pattern, not just one incident.
Ready-to-send scripts
StandardThis is a repeated pattern of last-minute cancellations. I need more reliability.
I am not available for plans that keep getting canceled same day.
If this continues, I will stop making plans.
If they push back
- I hear you, and I am still setting this boundary.
- If reliability is not possible, we should pause plans.
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FAQs
Should I stop making plans immediately?
You can first state your boundary once. If behavior continues, step back.
How do I avoid sounding petty?
Focus on impact on your time and trust, not on blaming language.
Can this apply in dating too?
Yes. Reliability is a basic standard in all close relationships.
Can I use this message in a phone call instead of text?
Yes. Keep the same core point and shorten it to one or two clear sentences for spoken delivery.
When should I switch to a firmer tone?
Use firm tone after your boundary has been stated clearly and is still ignored. Repeat once, then follow through.
Need deeper support?
These third-party resources can help with communication skills and emotional boundaries.
Boundary Skills Mini Course
Short practical lessons on calm, respectful boundary communication.
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Guided prompts for hard conversations without guilt spirals.
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